How to get over losing a close friend?

In your entire life you'll probably go through tough and rough breakups and no one really tells you how to recover from them. All you do is push it away and try to move on. It's even more hard for someone to get over a relationship that may have lasted for many years. You share so many of your memories with them and probably also saw your future with them. You made plans about all the things that you wanted to happen, maybe share the same career as eachother or moving in to the same apartment??

When you saw your entire future with someone, it's hard letting go of them easily. It doesn't matter if it was a friendship or even a relationship; losing someone that is close to you can be a hurtful process/time in your life.

The first thing you should do when losing a close friend, or even someone that is close to you, is grief all you can and all you want. It is perfectly acceptable to mourn over a friendship that is no longer there. I mean, that person was a big part of your life and obviously you have every right to feel upset over it. Crying over someone does not make you weak, it will make you stronger.

After the grieving process you will finally come to realisation. This is the point in life where you realise that you can still carry on with your life and be more independent. Most of the time we rely on our friends to do everything for us and sometimes we're just use to doing things with someone else all the time. We forget that we are two different beings going on different paths. Just because our journey may end with them doesn't mean our journey ends there too. We have to be able to realise that we usually meet people in our lives for a reason. Most of the time, we choose people to be in our lives that will make us grow and also make us a better person. In the beginning, they may have helped us grow but as time passes we may realise that the person you call a 'close' friend no longer excites you, no longer helps you grow, and at that point you need to let go. That path ends there with them and you need to move forward to your own path.

If you really want to get over a close friend then you need to get out of the house more often. Sometimes we end up shutting ourselves in a corner of a room and think no one is worthy of our time. However, as soon as you open the door and lay your eyes on the wide field ahead, you realise that the world is a big place and that your life does not depend on just one person. We need to realise that we have a family that cares and loves us. Even a pet who loves you unconditionally. When you realise that there are so many people who care and love you, you realise that you still have so much love to give

You need to realise that its not the end! Losing people in your life means room for new people. Even if you don't find anyone for a while, then, being alone isn't a bad thing. Its more time to reflect and to getting to know yourself better. Being around people all the time means that we put our own personality and needs to the side. We often drown ourselves in the outside world instead of looking inside and seeing what we actually want.

Go for adventures! Occupying your mind is really important so you don't fall in the hole of depression. On your spare days take yourself out on a date, even if this is to your local coffee shop. Go to the zoo, or to the aquarium, or even to city. Embark yourself on a journey where you're surrounded by nature. Going to places like these means you're not just thinking about yourself because of everything that is going on around you. For one moment, everything seems to stop in your life and all attention is paid on whats happening infront you. Watching the trees and long grass sway in the wind or coming eye to eye with an animal which makes you tingle inside. Explore your surrounding and you will always find something new to love.

Lastly, don't be so hard on yourself. Life happens but it shouldn't knock you down. Instead, take it as a challenge, because there is always a reason why a situation happens. You never know, maybe you and your friends path will meet again in the future. Even if it doesn't, you'll meet someone as equally as good as them. So pick yourself up from your bed everyday and one day you will wake up to it not hurting anymore.

#Inspire